A reminder that we should set aside old grievances, be they among friends or family, not just during a festive occasion such as Christmas but year round. Arguments among friends and family are not uncommon occurrences, but most arguments are petty and trivial.

As people around the world prepare to celebrate the birth of Christ on Saturday, more often than not, our sights are set on the small (and large) trinkets that give us pleasure, occasionally for a lifetime. But oft times it’s momentary, lasting perhaps a few days or a week.


But there are times when the gifts we buy for others provide the gift giver with more wonderful memories, albeit perhaps bittersweet, than the recipient may ever know.


And so it is that I wait impatiently for a DVD collection to arrive at my doorstep.


This collection, a series regaling viewers in the twists and turns of the life of a mom and daughter in a fictional New England village, didn’t break any new ground or set the Internet ablaze (at least as far as I know) with scandalous characters. But it was, I’ve been told, pretty popular.


Watching the “Gilmore Girls” became a daily event in our household while my sister, Kathy, helped care for my mom, who suffered from Alzheimer’s for the better part of a decade before she passed away in October.


At 5 p.m. each day, nearly without fail, Kathy would turn the channel to watch the adventures of Lorelai and Rory Gilmore and their just-as-oddball cast of friends. Over the years, I’d venture to say Kathy has watched each episode at least a dozen times.


I wasn’t particularly enamored with the show initially, but much like a well-worn sweater, it eventually became an old friend that was always there for me.


A few days ago, I ordered the complete seventh season for Kathy as a Christmas gift because it was the only season she was missing from her collection. But as I write this, Kathy is laying in a hospital bed, traveling the final miles of a journey with an unfriendly beast called cancer.


Short of a much-needed prayer for a miracle, it’s quite possible my sister will not be with our family to celebrate Christmas, but I do not write this to solicit sympathy. Rather, to serve as a reminder that we should set aside old grievances, be they among friends or family, not just during a festive occasion such as Christmas but year round.


Arguments among friends and family are not uncommon occurrences, but most arguments are petty and trivial.


My family is no different. Kathy and I used to argue about some well… pretty stupid stuff. But as I looked at her this past Monday, I wondered what we could have possibly argued about.


On Christmas, our family will gather as we’ve done so for years. We’ll laugh and we’ll cry. And over the possible objections of others, we’ll be watching the seventh season of the “Gilmore Girls.’


Bruce Coulter is the editor of the Beacon-Villager. He may be reached at 978-371-5775 or by e-mail at bcoulter@cnc.com.